Thread: Me and husband alway always argue.?

This is a classic case of spousal abuse and you are falling victim to it and so is your son.

Your whole body, spirit, and mind know all this is bad for you and you are fighting all your natural instincts to get out of this relationship. Yes, you are imbalanced because this is a very unbalanced relationship. There are signs of depresssion, loss of self esteem, and post traumatic stress disorder!!

Sweetie there are many organizations for battered wives and children. You can go into hiding or they can give you a safe place to stay to sort all your legal issues out.

Never feel trapped or helpless. This is what he will make you believe in order to maintain fear and control over you. This is a bully's way of controling you. Once you make your mind believe different and find the courage to leave he no longer has control over you.

Find these shelter for woman. Look in the yellow pages or look online for your area. Do it for yourself and save your son. He will grow up to be like his father if you don't get him out of there. This vicious cycle has to end!!!!!!!!!

I am here if you need a friend. I am a survivor of an abused home. My mother did not have the courage to leave and I still suffer from those emotional scars. With therapy though I am no longer a VICTIM.

I hope and pray for the same for you and your son.

He's not a doctor and he can't use bipolar against you. It's one thing to have clinical depression which can be caused by situations like yours. YOu need to toughen up!!! Stop allowing yourself to be stuck. You can go to a shelter for women with your son and they will protect you. If you don't want to do that, go get a full time job even if it is a crap job. You are allowing yourself to be a victim and allowing your son to watch all this. He doesn't have a choice, you do. YOu chose to marry this man, now think for yourself and take control of your life. If you want out, get out. YOu have friends I'm sure. Look into income based housing, go talk to family services. There are a lot of things you can do. Stop playing the poor me victim role and take control of your situation. This guy isn't going to wake up and be a better man tomorrow. He is this way cause he is insecure and controlling. You want your son to learn to be that way and treat his wife that way one day. Sorry to sound harsh but why sugar coat reality. Woman up and protect your child. He can shove his $ up his ass. Courts won't take your son from you cause you are depressed. They can see when a parent is using a child as a manipulation tool as he is. Courts don't like taking children from a mother unless she is unfit. Having a mental disorder or depression is NOT unfit unless you have caused harm or endangerd your child. Stop letting him make you feel nuts, it's his way of manipulation and you are falling for it!!!!!

wow am very sorry for that..am amazed i swear.
anyway,i think u must tell ur doctor about that and
u have to go to police with that doctor (not alone)
am sure u have friends do u?
tell everyone u know about that and c what they can do
for u .. don't stay like that and don't surrender to this life..
u always can start over with a new life but first u must have
the confidence and the plan to do it..don't waste another day with him,
and GOOD LUCK.

Sounds like a very controlling husband and your son is growing up to be just like him. Appears to be domestic abuse (verbal) to me and you are suffering depression because you have been putting up with this behaviour for too long, it is undermining your self confidence. I would like to suggest you seek some counselling from a Domestic Violence shelter - There you should find the support you need. A man to treat his wife this way is shameful; he threatens you with taking away your child, saying you are suffering manic depression, won't allow you to go out when you want, controlling, I wouldn't be surprised if he controls all the household money too, etc. Please get the advice and support from one of those shelters - You will find that you are not alone and build a better life for yourself. Good luck.

I'm sure your not perfect either but anyway. If that deal with you and your son eating is true then he is WAY overboard on the controll thing. The courts will allow you custody unless he PROVES you to be unfit as a mother and unfortunately they are blind to what that even means.

Tell the judge you don't want this but he will not work with you in anyway and he's gone to far for to long. He'll be pissed when you get the kid and 20% (in Illinois for 1 kid) of his pay. The boy is who matters here though not him.

Please try counsiling first PLEASE! If he won't then I guess thats one more thing to bring up in court that you tried. S^*T does walk and he'll find out who the real terd is.

sounds like he is bi-polar